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Dating vs. courtship: Choose wisely

Monday, February 18, 2013, 1:02 am | Randy Thomasson


When should you allow your child to date? Or should they date at all?

Barack Obama has implied that his oldest daughter, who’s 14, is dating.

Is that too young or it is okay? Where’s the dating scene gotten our nation? And what has starting romance in our early teens done to children?

It’s highly worthwhile to take inventory of what the modern invention of dating, and its emotional and physical expectations, has produced.

And when you look at it closely, the dating culture has led to widespread heartbreak, sexual immorality, STDs, abortion, abuse, and divorce. All of these ills are much more likely to come from dating than courtship. For God did not intend for parents to cut their teenagers loose to follow their own foolish feelings.

Where does abortion come from? Primarily sex out of wedlock.

Sexually-transmitted diseases? The same.

What has the highest domestic violence rates? Unmarried relationships.

What reinforces a divorce mentality? The constant breakups of dating.

All this is why I’m no longer a fan of dating and instead support courtship. Courtship puts the parents in a wise and beneficial position to advise and approve and protect hearts and minds and bodies. I’m convinced courtship is the best way to obtain a secure marriage.

How is courtship different from and better than dating? Tracey Bartolomei explains:

The main difference between dating and courtship is the attitude that one assumes towards relationships and the activities in which the couple engages before marriage. Contemporary dating is generally a self-focused past time. It is characterized by expectations of physical/emotional intimacy without commitment. Self-gratification is paramount. If either party is no longer gratified the relationship ends; thus, a cycle of short-term relationship begins and continues.

In courtship, both individuals have the understanding that marriage is the eventual goal of the relationship. Courtship takes a more thoughtful, long- term approach to a premarital relationship. The emphasis is on developing friendships and seeking compatibility in ones future mate. Courtship doesn’t actually begin until each feels that the other person could be a perspective marriage partner. Their time together is spent getting to know teach other better through conversation and group socialization, rather than sexual intimacy.

Learn more about courtship:

Courtship vs. Dating: What’s the Difference?

Seasons of Courtship

Dating vs. Courtship: A Bible Study

“..take a wife for my son Isaac.”
Genesis 24 (NKJV)

Use this to educate others about marriage and our republic

Monday, February 11, 2013, 12:54 pm | Randy Thomasson

ThumbNail_NewsletterJan2013I was thrilled the other day to find out that a large church in the L.A. area had placed in its bulletin, for everyone to see, SaveCalifornia.com’s excellent newsletter explaining real marriage, Proposition 8, the United States Constitution, and what’s at stake in our republic.

The current issues that turn people’s heads are a great opportunity to educate them with Truth. SaveCalifornia.com is teaching all who are willing to listen, and you can too. With Prop. 8 scheduled March 26 at the U.S. Supreme Court, please seize this opportunity to educate your friends, your church, and people in your community.

Print and distribute SaveCalifornia.com’s Prop. 8 newsletter

So they taught in Judah, and had the Book of the Law of the Lord with them; they went throughout all the cities of Judah and taught the people.
2 Chronicles 17:9 NKJV

Enjoy our Prop. 8 friend-of-the-court brief

Wednesday, January 30, 2013, 4:44 pm | Randy Thomasson

Good news! Our principled attorney friends at Liberty Counsel have filed a strong friend-of -the-court brief defending California’s Proposition 8 with the U.S. Supreme Court, which will hear oral arguments March 26.

This very solid brief represents the moral and constitutional values of both Liberty Counsel and our organization, Campaign for Children and Families, otherwise known as SaveCalifornia.com.

Our brief’s well-thought-out constitutional arguments address the false grounds on which homosexual activists are attacking real, man-woman marriage — specifically, the 1996 Romer v. Evans Supreme Court decision striking down Colorado’s voter-approved law against special rights based on “sexual orientation.”

Here’s the summary of our arguments in the brief:

1. Romer does not dictate the the outcome in this case as Colorado’s Amendment 2 and California’s Proposition 8 are legally and factually distinguishable.

a. Proposition 8 does not target a solitary class of people of discrimination.

b. Proposition 8 does not impose far-reaching changes in the law that impact broad protections in the private and public sphere.

c. Proposition 8 is consistent with the longstanding definition of marriage in California and, therefore, is not inconsistent with any emerging trend in California to redefine marriage.

d. Proposition 8 does not single out a solitary class of people and make it more difficult for them to petition their government for assistance.

e. Proposition 8 was not passed based on a bare desire to harm a specific group of people.

2. This Court should resist any effort to treat sexual orientation as a suspect classification.

From the Brief:

“Liberty Counsel is a civil liberties organization that provides education and legal defense on issues relating to traditional family values, including marriage, across the United States.”

“Amicus Campaign for Children and Families represents fathers, mothers, grandparents and concerned individuals who believe the sacred institutions of life, marriage, and family deserve utmost protection and respect by government and society.”

Liberty Counsel’s Jan. 29 News Release | Amicus Brief | SaveCalifornia.com’s Dec. 7 News Release

“Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.”
Jesus Christ in John 7:24 (NKJV)